here are 10 things i would like to get out of my head, and yet retain for future reference. maybe when i am done writing this, i will be able to get a good night's sleep ...
1. the #1 thing i have gained from therapy is a renewed awareness that NO ONE IS GOING TO SAY, DO, OR BE EXACTLY WHAT I WANT THEM TO SAY, DO, OR BE.
2. one of the main things i hope to gain from therapy is the ability to have whatever people DO say, do, or are be enough for me.
3. i finished the book "made in the usa" by billie letts last week and it was good for sparking thoughts on being connected to people - and i needed the reminder that in spite of #1 above, it is still worthwhile to reach out to others and connect in meaningful ways.
4. i should never have given up having a washer and dryer in my own place. planning my week/end around getting clean underwear is already getting old, and it has only been 5 weeks.
5. it used to be that, even when i didn't like someone, i still wanted them to like me. lately, this is becoming less true. halla-freakin-loo-ya.
6. i believe that "black and white" and "all or nothing" thinking has robbed me of much happiness and peace in my life. it has also led to self-punishment of the cruelest kind. the battle to overcome this compulsion is proving more difficult than i anticipated.
7. just because i would feel a certain way if someone said something to me, does not mean they would feel the same way if i said the same thing to them. ergo, writing scripts for possible conversations is A WASTE OF TIME AND ENERGY.
8. being angry at someone and hating them is not the same thing.
9. effective communication is blessing when it happens and often an insurmountable obstacle when it is absent.
10. a painful truth is ALWAYS preferable to an easy lie.
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well said on all of those. i'm working on applying some of those ideas as well.
i didn't have laundry where i lived for 8 years. i feel ya.
i think you're great and i hope you can work through all this and get to a place that you can feel happy and comfortable in your relationships with others and with yourself.
I like your late night locqua....however you spell it. :) Love ya! When are you coming down to the states??
Well written!
K.
I'm so glad you're posting again. And you do have such a way of putting things. :-)
Afton
Glad to see some of the old fire and kick!! Can't wait till summer to hang out!!
Great post! Glad to see little bloggy snippets coming back.
I can relate to you on soooo many levels!!
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